Congratulations! You're engaged and planning the biggest day of your life. But what do you do next?! This question hit me within 24 hours of being engaged. I knew what had to be done but what do you do first?? So I started researching but it was hard to know what was really important and what could wait. Here are some tips that I found helpful from my own experience!
2. If your fiance didn't have your ring sized, call the jeweler and have it done as soon as possible. I know you wanted it back yesterday but you will have to part with it for a few days to ensure you won't lose it in the future. However, asking the right questions in the beginning can prevent you from being without it longer than you have to be. Ask when the jeweler comes in and when would be the best time to drop your ring off. Sometimes you can drop it off and pick it up later that day or come back the next day - just ask the questions! (Tie some string around the back if it's really too big and that will keep it from falling off.)
3. Questions.... people will start asking about your date, venue, number of people invited, if they are invited, what dress you'll be wearing and everything else in between. If you can give them a ballpark answer on the date, they will be happy. Something along the lines of "early next summer" is fine and you aren't locked in to anything you tell people until it's booked! Or if you're planning a longer engagement, be honest and say that. Own it and people won't keep asking you weird questions. Also, don't be afraid to tell people you are still working the details out. You just got engaged so people don't know what else to do but ask questions. Be gracious, smile and keep your nails done as you engage in the early conversations with people.
4. Decide what's important - the date, venue, and number of people on your "must have" list are all important factors. If you realize that only one date will work with both your families, start narrowing down venues based on that. If there is only one venue you've dreamed of getting married at, then base your date on the venue. Asks the moms to start a must have guest list to help you ball park the amount of people you will have at your wedding because that number will impact your venue selection. A priority list is crucial for helping you make decisions!
5. Have the tough conversations about money and what people really want to happen. This day is very important to your parents, relatives and friends so be mindful of what is important to them. However, this day is about you as a couple so make sure that everyone understands that as well. For example: you find out your mom really wants pictures at your childhood home so do your best to accommodate that because that is something that is important to her but might not matter to you. Or you realize that your friends want to be included in planning a surprise shower for you, so connect them with your mom and let them figure it all out.
6. Dream a lot. Go crazy over Pinterest ideas, The Knot, and every bridal magazine you come in contact with! The sky is the limit so enjoy finding new ideas and being creative. Rip out magazine pages, start pinning away, and make notes in your phones about what inspires and captures you. Settling on a theme and sticking with that is important but you don't need to figure that until you've spent some time dreaming of your perfect day!
7. Have fun! Go out on a date with your fiance. Leave the phones, planners and wedding ideas in the car and spend some time with the love of your life! You'll be surrounded by lots of people and ideas for the next few months so make sure to spend time with each other. Get a massage, go on a hike, hit the dance floor or enjoy a quiet dinner. The important thing is that you're together!
Starting your engagement off on the right foot is important and the less stress the better!
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